{"id":370,"date":"2026-04-10T07:26:15","date_gmt":"2026-04-10T07:26:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tolksen.org.tr\/?p=370"},"modified":"2026-04-10T07:26:15","modified_gmt":"2026-04-10T07:26:15","slug":"ayni-masadan-notlar-aydinlanmis-tanik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tolksen.org.tr\/en\/2026\/04\/10\/ayni-masadan-notlar-aydinlanmis-tanik\/","title":{"rendered":"Notes from the Same Table \u2013 The Enlightened Witness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"has-text-align-right\"><em>Bu yaz\u0131, i\u015f yerimdeki t\u00fcm ayd\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015f tan\u0131klar\u0131ma\u2026<br>\u0130yi ki vars\u0131n\u0131z.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015f yerinin \u201calt\u0131n kural\u0131\u201d nedir diye sorsak, \u00e7o\u011fu ki\u015fi ayn\u0131 \u015feyi s\u00f6yler:<br>\u201c\u0130\u015fi eve, evi i\u015fe ta\u015f\u0131ma. \u0130\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131nla d\u0131\u015far\u0131da g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Diyelim ki bu do\u011fru\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Peki haftan\u0131n be\u015f g\u00fcn\u00fc, sabah 9 ak\u015fam 6 dip dibe oldu\u011fum insanlarla hi\u00e7bir ba\u011f kurmadan, hi\u00e7bir \u015fey payla\u015fmadan nas\u0131l duraca\u011f\u0131m?<br>S\u00fcrekli tetikte, \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fc, mesafeli\u2026<br>Bu hal insan\u0131 yormaz m\u0131?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ben \u00f6yle biri de\u011filim. \u0130\u00e7imde tutamam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Belki de \u015fansl\u0131yd\u0131m, belki de denk geldim\u2026<br>Ama hayat\u0131ma d\u00f6n\u00fcp bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, iz b\u0131rakan insanlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funun i\u015f vesilesiyle tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m arkada\u015flar\u0131m oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hepsiyle kusursuz muydu? De\u011fildi.<br>Hi\u00e7 sorun ya\u015famad\u0131m m\u0131? Ya\u015fad\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ama\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Derdimi anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda sadece dinlemeyen, derdimle dertlenen, \u201cNe yapabiliriz?\u201d diye yan\u0131mda duran arkada\u015flar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015f anlam\u0131nda hep destek olan bildi\u011fini esirgemeden \u00f6\u011freten arkada\u015flar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bazen bir sorun oldu\u011funda, resmen a\u00e7\u0131k oturum masas\u0131na oturdu\u011fumuz, konuyu masaya yat\u0131r\u0131p \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm buldu\u011fumuz arkada\u015flar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bocalad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde duruma el koyan \u201cTamam, bu b\u00f6yle olmuyor, \u015f\u00f6yle yap\u0131yoruz.\u201d diyen arkada\u015flar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130yi mi k\u00f6t\u00fc m\u00fc oldu\u011funa emin olamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bir \u015feyde, \u201cEvet, bu iyi, yap, arkanday\u0131z\u201d diyen ya da \u201cBu ne sa\u00e7ma i\u015f, otur a\u015fa\u011f\u0131.\u201d diyebilen arkada\u015flar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7ocu\u011fumu i\u015fe getirmek zorunda kald\u0131\u011f\u0131mda ve toplant\u0131ya girdi\u011fimde onunla oyun oynayan arkada\u015flar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Doktordan \u00e7ok iyi olmayan sonu\u00e7larla \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, geri d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmde temiz bulay\u0131m diye<br>masam\u0131 sessizce toparlayan arkada\u015flar\u2026 (Ger\u00e7i bunu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fck\u00e7e g\u00fcl\u00fcyorum; acaba \u201c\u00f6l\u00fcr kal\u0131r da ziyarete gelenler laf eder\u201d diye mi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc, annelerimiz gibi\u2026)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>G\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm e\u011flendi\u011fim yarg\u0131lar m\u0131 diye korkmadan konu\u015ftu\u011fum arkada\u015flar\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00c7o\u011fu i\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131md\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Psikolog yazar Alice Miller&nbsp;kitaplar\u0131nda \u201cAyd\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015f Tan\u0131k\u201d diye bir kavramdan bahsediyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ayd\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015f tan\u0131k; sizi ger\u00e7ekten g\u00f6ren, ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeyen, duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 onaylayan terapistiniz, anne baban\u0131z, arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Benim ayd\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015f tan\u0131klar\u0131m aras\u0131nda i\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131m da var\u2026Ben de onlar\u0131n ayd\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015f tan\u0131\u011f\u0131y\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Peki\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015f yerinde seni ger\u00e7ekten g\u00f6ren bir \u201cayd\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015f tan\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u201d var m\u0131?<br>Ya da sen, birilerinin ayd\u0131nlanm\u0131\u015f tan\u0131\u011f\u0131 m\u0131s\u0131n?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ayn\u0131 masa, yeni bak\u0131\u015f.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Bir Kamu \u00c7al\u0131\u015fan\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>09.04.2026-Ankara<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bu 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